A girl with her white doll in Ghana
A mother proud to share with folks online that she perms her 5 Month old baby’s hair..
I would say, it is the failure of father, mother and our (black) community as a whole. Continental Africans and diasporans contribute in fueling internalized taught self-hate in our community. We are proponents of white supremacy:
1. We perm our little girls’ hair
2. We bleach our babies’ skin
3. We buy them toys that are not empowering to their development
4. We don’t teach them our native language, like Zulu, Twi, Yotti/ Bali/ Beti, we say “English, French is enough to take you places, don’t worry about backwards african languages”.
5. We give them names after our colonializers and enslavers . E.g John, Solomon, Abubakar, George Bush, Livingstone, Halimah, Hawa, Napoleon, Maria, Celine etc
6. We don’t encourage them anymore to take a time out from technology to go out and play with their mates
7. We buy them expensive phones, shoes, even when they can barely spell their name or say thank you
8. We let them sit around and order housemaids ( “house boy/ girl”) instead of teaching them about individual and community responsibilities and respect of those that serve them (us).
What is the way forward?? Let us start undoing and doing the opposite, following the lead of those parents that are proud to be themselves. Here are few picture examples( Copyright to those that took them, not my property)
1. Black Girls taking a walk….friendship.
2.Happy Black Baby with her natural hair.
3. Black Baby Boy Reading.
4. Black Baby Being A Princess That She Is with her natural hair.
5. Black Baby Boy playing with a doll that looks just like him,self-love starts at an early age.
7. Happy Black Baby Boy.
8. A Happy black Baby Girl With A doll That Looks Like Her.
9.Happy and cute black boy
10. Black and happy baby boy in his natural dark skin.
11. Little Black Girl wearing her natural hair.
13. Little black boy with a puppy
14. Little black girl wearing her natural hair.
15. Black boy playing with his handmade toy.
17. Black girls sharing a laugh 🙂
18. happy black girl with her doll
19. African/black girls smiling for the camera
When we don’t undo the internalized taught self-hate in our community, the impact will destroy our children’s self esteem leading through out their adult life. Below is a short video directed by a young black girl ( African-American), it gives a wonderful picture of the effects of internalized taught self-hate. She got the idea from the original test conducted in 1940s by an African American couple Dr. Kenneth B. Clark and Mamie Phipps Clark ( see their picture below copyright to the person that took it.)
” A Girl Like Me” Directed by Kiri Davis and Produced by Reel Works Teen Filmmaking
Black Boy picked a white doll during testing…Dr.Kenneth B. Clark standing on his left.
1. link to look at Anderson Cooper describes “Kids on Race: The Hidden Picture
3. Black mother shows how you could care and maintain your daughter’s natural hair. I think this might be more helpful for those in the diaspora since the products she uses are available there ..watch it here:
4. Teach your children what is important in life…
5.Black in White America: ABC News Special (1989): http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CSafZUWok98
6. “Pretty Brown Girl” doll…for those interested in buying it, here is the link…https://www.prettybrowngirl.com/
7. Words of encouragement from Dr. Yaba Blay to little black girls particularly LaShawnte a young girl that was interviewed on CNN, who expressed that she would like to be “light” skinned.
8. Dr. Umar Johnson speaks about why it is unhealthy for parents to give their children white dolls etc